Our heart is broken for every couple out there who have had to pause their big day for the time being. It’s unimaginable that when you picked your date, written in stone, that such a thing could happen. We’re here to hold your hand through this process and give you some tips to mindfully postpone your wedding, taking into consideration the social, economic and environmental impact on yourself and your suppliers in moving your celebration of love.
First up, we want to talk about you. Be mindful that this situation is hella stressful, there is no sugar coating it. You’ve spent months planning the perfect image of what your beautiful Spring or Summer wedding would have looked like and the thought of unpicking it all and doing it again is NOT appealing. Ringing any bells? We hear ya.
Set yourself realistic limits; set aside an hour or two a day to ring your suppliers and work through the logistics of your new date. Do not attempt this all in one day, there are some mega organised folk out there who might be able to hack it, but for the rest of us it’s a sure fire way to send stress levels sky-high.
Mark your date. When your would-have-been date rolls around, mark the moment. Grab a bottle of Prosecco, share some of your favourite memories from your relationship so far and remember how excited you were the day you got engaged. That feeling will keep you going until your big day rolls around once more.
If you’re changing seasons, have fun with it! Create a pinterest board of the new elements your new season could bring, and have fun trawling through Pinterest and pinning some new inspiration. Your suppliers will be a huge help with this, which we’ll talk about in the coming sections.
So your beautiful (and potentially expensive) spring themed invites have long been sent out. What do you do now?! Breathe. Whilst your date, and maybe even your season and styling, might have changed, your venue and schedule of your day probably won’t have. Of course it’s not at all ideal but they still set the tone for your wedding style. If you have a spare or can pick one up from a family member, make sure you keep it. It might sting at the moment but it’s going to be a wild tale to tell your grandkids in 40 years time and you’ll regret not keeping one if you bin them all.
Do you pay for a fresh batch? We’d strongly advise against it. If you went for printed invites, you paid the premium the first time around and the earth will thank you for sticking to digital for your postponement cards. Clare Gray Designs is offering beautiful free digital downloads for you to use as postponement cards.
Your Floristry, Decor & Styling
As we mentioned earlier, Pinterest is your friend! But you really do not have to change everything (or anything!) about your day. If you do want to make some tweaks to your styling, speak to your suppliers as your first point of call. If you’ve hired in seasonal items such as a Pimms stand and signage that you had planned to place outdoors but are now moving to a Winter wedding, they will be able to think creatively about how you can incorporate these things on your moved date; for example suggesting a mulled wine station instead.
For your flowers, your Florist will be able to tell you what is in season on your new date and talk through the colour scheme you’d like. If your favourite flower is out of season due to your move and it’s something you had your heart set on, instead of having them imported from abroad think about ways you can incorporate them without raising that carbon footprint. Fox Flowers sell incredibly realistic faux flowers and are a great alternative to bringing in flowers from abroad. Work with your florist to incorporate these into their pre-existing designs of locally sourced blooms.
The most important thing to remember is that everything is flexible and with a little imagination everything you have planned to hire can be rearranged and repurposed to work just as well. Remember that your suppliers are the professionals and have provided their services for weddings in all seasons, trust their advice and creative input.
Your Cake & Catering
Your catering may also need to change depending on your suppliers and time of year. Moving from Spring to Winter will bring with it a change of foods that are available to be sourced locally. See this as a positive and work with your caterer to find new creative dishes using sustainably sourced seasonal ingredients. Think about what kind of foods your guest will want to eat in this new season. Silver lining, it’s an excuse for another tasting!
You chose your wedding dress because it made you feel like a goddess and it will suit any season. If you’ve gone for a summery number and now find yourself in the winter, our honest opinion is throw caution to the wind and wear it regardless. It’s a wedding dress! You are going to look stunning in your dress whatever day of the year you are in and not one of your guests will think anything else. If you are really concerned and it’s giving you hot sleepless nights, take it to a seamstress and consider adding sleeves, an overskirt or underlay to change it up. Bottom line, do not buy a new one! Wedding dresses are the ultimate fast-fashion so try your best to make it fit your new vision before giving up. Trust us, you can 100% work with what you’ve got.
So you planned your wedding perfectly to hit the cherry blossom season in Japan in early April and now find yourself honeymooning in September. Don’t panic! Head to Lonely Planet and research the best trips for your new month. If you’d still like to do your original honeymoon and don’t have the budget for both, think about booking a mini-moon somewhere closer to home immediately after your wedding and then saving your funds for your planned trip the following year. If you do find a new honeymoon idea, you can always keep the old plan for a faux-anniversary trip in the future.
Your suppliers hearts are breaking too
For every postponed wedding, there is an army of talented suppliers facing upheaval too. Many of these suppliers will be an independent small business, often run by one or two people. Weddings are often a seasonal affair, with the peak months in spring and summer making up the majority of a suppliers income for the year. This means that by postponing your wedding and not cancelling, you are already doing them a huge kindness in keeping their business. If you are able to, consider paying your supplier close to the date you would have done for your original date to help with their cash flow. If you aren’t able to do this, leave them a positive review and recommend them on your social channels to give them a little boost.
Your suppliers will be your best source of inspiration when considering your new date and will have the creative know-how to make sure your new date is so spectacular you’ll wonder why you ever considered your old one. If for whatever reason they aren’t able to make your new date they will have a list of trusted suppliers to step in for you, including our own directory of wonderfully sustainable suppliers here.
Whatever you decide, we have no doubt it will be the most amazing day of your life. The wait just makes it all that more magic.
Featured Suppliers ( & Instagram Tags)
Clare Gray Designs, @claregray_designs
Floral Roots, @floral.roots
Iced Delights Cakes @iced.delights.cakes
Camilla Andrea Photography, @camillaandreaphotography
The Little Lending Co @thelittlelendingco